Models of Civility

TODAY’S NEWS cycle and social media streams might understandably convince you that ethical leadership and civil discourse are dead. But this is where associations and other non-profits, as mission-driven organizations, can take the lead and set an example for others.
Ethical volunteer leadership goes far beyond avoiding conflicts of interest. You will be called on to behave ethically in many contexts. Disagreements over how issues should be approached often surface in board meetings. If your organization has a government relations program, disputes over political issues may arise. And because you’re in a position of power, you will have opportunities to engage in unethical behavior with staff (especially the executive director or CEO) since you hold their future in your hands.
A few simple but important principles can guide your conduct in these and other scenarios that may arise during your board service:
- Keep conversation civil. Listen to the views of other board members and the organization’s chief executive. In short, you can agree to disagree. Keep the discussion focused on the issues, not the people commenting on them, and avoid petty insults when listening to others’ views
- Be inclusive. When forming committees or task forces, include thoughtful, committed members who represent gender, ethnic, racial, age, and sexual orientation diver-sity. Involving those with divergent opinions and social backgrounds also can make committees and task forces more robust and inclusive.
- Keep politics out of the discussion. In today’s divisive political atmosphere, nothing can derail a friendship or business relationship more quickly than expressing strong political views. When it seems that the conversation is veering toward politics (other than policies that affect the association), change the subject. Say something as simple as “I’m so tired of politics. Let’s talk about something else.” Few disagree, and the conversation usually turns to other topics.
Here is what ethical leaders don’t do:
- They don’t engage in gossip or spread rumors about other board members, rank-and-file association members, or staff.
- They don’t use their position to harass, intimidate, insult, or
bully others. As recent high-profile harassment cases and lawsuits have shown, abusive behavior by people in powerful positions results in lasting psychological damage to individuals and economic loss to organizations. - They don’t share opinions (especially political) or degrad-ing comments on social media. Even content that has been deleted can often be found again. Assume that your social media posts will be on the internet forever, and then post—or don’t post—accordingly.
If you follow these simple rules, you will set the standard for ethical behavior and civil discourse in your association community. In all likelihood, others will follow your lead.